According to a recent study published in “The Journal of Sociological Networks,” Millennials have longer relationships than those compared to those Baby Boomers and Generation X-ers had at their age.
Millennials, a generation which includes people as young as thirteen to those in their early thirties, have an average relationship length of three and a half years (3.53, to be precise), if one omits relationships that evolve into marriages. That is a far cry from the second-placers, Baby Boomers, whose relationships often ended just a few months short of two (1.89). Generation X-ers follow closely behind with an average of 1.7 years.
The study is the work of a Dr. M. Hal Amore, a sociology professor from the Ateneo. Prof. Amore, 24, is himself a millennial. He said this study came from months of being what he calls an “abanger” (someone who waits for someone else to become single and available before making a move) before realizing that the relationship he was hoping would crash and burn simply wouldn’t be doing so in the near future. “For the better part of 2014, I was waiting for this relationship to end so that this girl would become available and I can swoop in for the rebound. It…. uh, didn’t work out. I mean, their relationship did, it’s still ongoing, which is great, I guess, but it totally sucks for me.”
“I found this odd because, according to conventional knowledge, most teenagers and twenty-somethings aren’t supposed to be in happy, fulfilling relationships. They’re either in relationships born out of naivety and low expectations, or casual hookups dragged on for a few weeks before eventually collapsing in on themselves, but that’s not what I, and many other people, are seeing. This was both so fascinating and super frustrating that I just had to study it.”
Professor Amore categorized relationships in three different ways – Short-term, Long-term, and Marriages. His study focused on the first two. “Short-term relationships are shallow and often only last for half a year at most. Long-term relationships are those who get past that mark, but have no plans for Marriage in the near future.” He said that he expected the vast majority of Millennial relationships to be categorized in the former category, but after a month of surveying and interviews, he found that in reality, a lot of millennials seem to be in it for the long haul.
“Previous generations often spent their teenage and early adult years just screwing around and seeing what they were into. Millennials seem to have skipped that and jumped straight into “forevers” and “I love yous.” They invest quite a bit into their relationships and try to make them work, even if the people around them (like me especially) know that it’s not gonna work out and maybe, just maybe, there’s a nice, friendly Sociology professor waiting for them to realize that.”